Photos courtesy of Selina Zhong Tamon and I got married almost two weeks ago. Even though we’ve lived together for more than a year now, I feel a change — a good one. I still use my maiden name by accident … Continue reading
Tamon and I don’t really have a song. But at least we have our flowers. Pretty early on in the relationship, Tamon began giving me bouquets of roses and irises for our anniversaries. Red roses — yeah, because they’re traditional and romantic — and irises because they are blue (my favorite color) and they’re so gorgeous.
Here’s a bouquet Tamon gave me during the first two years of our relationship.
Earlier I mentioned how I didn’t want fresh flowers for my wedding. I love fresh flowers. But I’ve always felt a little guilty about them. It seems so sad to cut them off at their peak. I love the bouquets Tamon gives me and I always try to keep them alive for at least a week. A wedding full of fresh flowers just seems like a massacre. (Sorry for my soap box.) Like I said in my earlier post I managed to find some really high-quality silk flowers online. So my bridesmaids have the option to keep their bouquets if they really want. To make the flowers I simply used some silk roses and irises, some leaves from the hydrangeas I had to discard and ivy. I used floral wire to secure the stems and floral tape to bind them. I also recruited all my bridesmaids to collect toilet paper rolls (to create a more even handle). Mithi takes the prize by collecting 12 toilet and paper towel rolls! I have awesome bridesmaids. I wrapped the rolls in green canvas and decorated the handle with lace. Below is the step-by-step process (I took this picture to show Grace, Mithi and Tamara that I actually used the rolls and show them I’m not crazy).
Here is the finished product! I also made the boutonnieres from a smaller rose, ivy and green floral tape. I’ll add baby’s breath before the wedding. The roses are called real-touch roses and they feel eerily life-like.
This may sound silly but one of the main reasons I agreed to have a ceremony was because I really wanted bridesmaids and groomsmen. Both Tamon and I really care about our friends so it would seem strange not to have them there in that official capacity.
I think if I had insisted on the courthouse route Tamon would have gladly gone along with me (anything to avoid wedding planning). But I figure I’m the kind of girl who doesn’t like to have regrets. I don’t want to look back five years from now and wish that I’d had my wedding cake. Even Mithi’s wedding, as small as it was, had all the elements of a wedding. And that girl planned it in only two weeks!
I admit the bridesmaid’s role is pretty sexist. There’s the word “maid” in there for a reason. Kathy was clever in replacing the word with slave. In retrospect I should have told my bridesmaids they had the option of saying no (just in case they felt guilty about refusing). This was the first time I’ve ever been part of the bridal party so I didn’t know the kind of responsibilities and financial burdens that bridesmaids have to take on. So far I think I’ve tried to be careful — but that’s not to say I didn’t make a lot of mistakes at first. And of course, my sister Melissa is taking her prelims next year. Her appointment as my maid of honor couldn’t have come at a worst time. So we’ll have to go REALLY easy on her.
Despite all obstacles I think I did really well in choosing my bridesmaids though. It was hard of course because of the fact that I wanted Tamon’s sisters, Tamara and Taryn, to be bridesmaids — I had to exclude some dear friends — but in the end I felt like I had done the right thing. (Mimi Bevell and Grace Chu: You are my honorary bridesmaids.) It’s also given me a chance to get closer to my future sisters-in-laws. Bonus: They are super cute and sweet and now I have legitimate excuses to hang out with them. Tamara is a brilliant and hilarious comic artist. One a side note: Tamon made my brother one of his groomsmen. Yay!
My bridal party
Maid of honor: Melissa
Bridesmaids: Kathy, Mithi, Tamara and Taryn
Hey, cool they actually appear in that order in the pictures! And they all look so cute. I’m excited to walk down the aisle with them. This is them trying out bridesmaid dresses at Nordstroms. I’m letting them pick their own dresses.
Dress color is Pantone Emerald. And they’re going to wear them with these super cute gold headbands and Swarovski crystal and gold jewelry I’ll be designing.