This may sound silly but one of the main reasons I agreed to have a ceremony was because I really wanted bridesmaids and groomsmen. Both Tamon and I really care about our friends so it would seem strange not to have them there in that official capacity.
I think if I had insisted on the courthouse route Tamon would have gladly gone along with me (anything to avoid wedding planning). But I figure I’m the kind of girl who doesn’t like to have regrets. I don’t want to look back five years from now and wish that I’d had my wedding cake. Even Mithi’s wedding, as small as it was, had all the elements of a wedding. And that girl planned it in only two weeks!
I admit the bridesmaid’s role is pretty sexist. There’s the word “maid” in there for a reason. Kathy was clever in replacing the word with slave. In retrospect I should have told my bridesmaids they had the option of saying no (just in case they felt guilty about refusing). This was the first time I’ve ever been part of the bridal party so I didn’t know the kind of responsibilities and financial burdens that bridesmaids have to take on. So far I think I’ve tried to be careful — but that’s not to say I didn’t make a lot of mistakes at first. And of course, my sister Melissa is taking her prelims next year. Her appointment as my maid of honor couldn’t have come at a worst time. So we’ll have to go REALLY easy on her.
Despite all obstacles I think I did really well in choosing my bridesmaids though. It was hard of course because of the fact that I wanted Tamon’s sisters, Tamara and Taryn, to be bridesmaids — I had to exclude some dear friends — but in the end I felt like I had done the right thing. (Mimi Bevell and Grace Chu: You are my honorary bridesmaids.) It’s also given me a chance to get closer to my future sisters-in-laws. Bonus: They are super cute and sweet and now I have legitimate excuses to hang out with them. Tamara is a brilliant and hilarious comic artist. One a side note: Tamon made my brother one of his groomsmen. Yay!
My bridal party
Maid of honor: Melissa
Bridesmaids: Kathy, Mithi, Tamara and Taryn
Hey, cool they actually appear in that order in the pictures! And they all look so cute. I’m excited to walk down the aisle with them. This is them trying out bridesmaid dresses at Nordstroms. I’m letting them pick their own dresses.
Dress color is Pantone Emerald. And they’re going to wear them with these super cute gold headbands and Swarovski crystal and gold jewelry I’ll be designing.